There’s no question how crucial a mother’s role is in the lives of her children. Not only are mother’s responsible for bringing a newborn into the world, but they also spend years supporting, teaching and caring for these children. This is major undertaking that can be taxing physically, mentally and emotionally.
With so much of her time spent tending to her children’s needs, who is looking after mom? Who is there to refill her emotional and psychological needs when she gets run down or tired? Can she continue to be strong for her kids if she doesn’t have her own support system in place?
These questions were recently proposed as part of a study conducted at Arizona State University. 2 researchers there surveyed more than 2000 mothers asking specifically what factors help them cope with the stress of motherhood. Their research led to 4 main factors that contribute to mothers’ well-being.
Authenticity in Relationships
A mother will often have other relationships outside of those she has with her children. These relationships might include a spouse, siblings, parents, friends, and co-workers. According to the study, just having these relationships, like marriage for example, isn’t enough. Of more significance is the quality of the marriage or friendship. If these relationships are strained or difficult, it will impact the well-being of a mother.
While the relationship a mother has with her spouse and family members is important, a solid friendship can play a major role in how a mother feels about herself. Perhaps it’s the moments when she needs a break from her role as mother or the ability to feel connected with peers. Whatever the reason, a good relationship with friends can go a long way for moms.
Knowing that you are accepted in not only your role as a mother, but in the many other roles you may lead in your life is critical to your emotional well-being. Most mothers are willing to admit that there are days when they might feel like they have no idea what they are doing and lose confidence in their abilities. Having a support system to turn to that gives unconditional acceptance is very important.
Feeling Comforted When Needed
All mother’s know that there are moments when they struggle to keep up with the demands of motherhood. Even outside of their role as mother, a woman will occasionally need comforting from someone they love. When a mother is able to feel comforted in times of need, it can be the boost they need to keep up the important work they are doing for their kids.
To all mothers out there doing your best for your children – remember how important you are and make sure you do the things you need to in order to take care of yourself. This not only keeps you feeling good about yourself, but definitely carries over to your children.